Two gentlemen were arguing over the fact that each was more agreeable than the other. They fought with fisticuffs, swords, and eventually shot each other in a staged dual of honor. That gentlemen’s argument resulted in two grave stones. The only winners here were the grave diggers and funeral homes. The next time you want to argue you may want to choose a different approach. Let’s say someone cuts you off almost hitting you. Would you be anymore right than he or she if you pulled a gun out and shot the person? Think about it the other person may have a gun and may shoot you just for arguing and maybe you are right. Being right in the line of fire is no subsitute for simply ignoring the other person and praying they two could learn this procedure. It takes two to argue!
“People change when they sit behind a steering wheel. The meekest, mildest individual becomes a hissing, spitting ball of rage, pounding on the horn, swerving from lane to lane, mouthing obscenities and making rude gestures. Everyone but you is a terrible driver. So, when you’re cut up on the interstate, or someone pulls out in front of you and then slams on the brakes, or you spot that bloke driving down the passing lane of the marked highway for no apparent reason, what should you do?
I just take a deep breath and drive on. I also try to avoid listening to aggressive music (or music with an aggressive beat) as that tends to make my temper worse, for some reason. And if it’s something I can’t change, like a traffic jam, I just put a comedy tape or classical music and concentrate on that. That said, sometimes a really good scream helps, too! Best to make sure your windows are closed, though.
That’s it! Release that pent-up rage in a controlled way, otherwise you could find yourself spending a night in the cells or worse!” ——BBC h2g2
Have you ever wandered why people argue and who wins. The answer may suprise you! THE BUDDHISTS use argumentation as an art form and as part of their spirtual teachings and rituals. Attorneys are famous for arguing a case and families living all over the world argue from time to time. You can argue in a college debate, you can argue in a group, or you can argue with yourself. If arguing isn’t your cup of tea and you have nothing to prove then try using these principles to avoid arguing.
“In this Collaborative Entry, h2g2 Researchers share their tips for how to avoid blowing up when you feel the red mist descending upon you.
Patience is a Virtue!
Sometimes saying nothing is far better than arguing – with anyone. I do that with my Mom. When she gets me nuts, instead of getting all bent out of shape I just say to myself, ‘Have patience… She’s old… And senile…’
A good way to keep your cool when the fire is hot is simply to have patience. Training in the martial arts can be a good way of acquiring mental discipline.” ——BBC h2g2
Great argument uses no words! “Suppose you and I argue. If you win and I lose, are you indeed right and I wrong? And if I win and you lose, am I right and you wrong? Are we both partly right and partly wrong? Are we both all right or both all wrong? If you and I cannot see the truth, other people will find it even harder.
Then whom shall I ask to be the judge? Shall I ask someone who agrees with you? If he already agrees with you, how can he be a fair judge? Shall I ask someone who agrees with me? If he already agrees with me, how can he be a fair judge? Shall I ask someone who agrees with both of us? If he already agrees with both of us, how can he be a fair judge?
Then if you and I and others cannot decide, shall we wait for still another? Waiting for changing opinions is like waiting for nothing. Seeing everything in relation to the heavenly
cosmos and leaving the different viewpoints as they are, we may be able to live out our years.” ——CHUANG TSU
QUOTE: “Be wiser than other people if you can, but do not tell them so” – Lord Chesterfield
THINGS YOU MAY NOT KNOW: A grasshopper needs a minimum temperature of 62 degrees Fahrenheit in order to be able to hop. ——greatfacts.com
THINGS YOU MAY WANT TO SAVE: The Red Wolf! The red wolf is classified as a member of the order Carnivora (Carnivores) and is a member of the family Canidae. The red wolf is classified as a critically endangered species due to the estimation that its population consists of less than fifty mature red wolves. ——endangeredspecie.com
ZENTRAVELER SAYS: Argue with yourself and at least walk away a winner!